The next few weeks here on the IndependenceChick blog are going to be a bit odd. I have a new series for you, but it’s going to contain an interruption.
Thanks to Christian psychologist and birth order expert Dr. Kevin Leman, I got the idea to dedicate July to a series on birth order and how disability can affect it, and vice versa. For example, Dr. Leman theorizes that if a PWD is born as the oldest child in the family, but his or her disability is severe, then younger siblings may “pass” the PWD and take on classic characteristics of older children. That’s true in some cases, but not in others, and I’d like to take a look at other situations that can arise. I’d also like to discuss the birth order positions themselves–that is, how a PWD can maximize the strengths and benefits inherent in his or her family position. This can help that person:
(A. Define or redefine identity in the context of birth order and disability, without either one taking over personhood
(B. Compensate for weaknesses brought on by either disability or birth order/family dynamics
(C. Learn more about self and other people/understand and empathize more, increasing ability to be a team player at school, work, house of worship, etc.
However, there will be a brief interruption to this series around July 4. Why? Because July 4 is Independence Day. That’s an important day for anybody, but especially on a blog that encourages PWDs to find their own independence, whether or not that involves what other people think it should. Birth order doesn’t have much to do with that though, so look for a special Independence Day post. What will it be about? Well, that’s a surprise, but here’s a hint: make sure you have your sunglasses, a shady spot, and a drink with one of those little umbrellas in it. I’ll be bringing a Shirley Temple, extra cherries.
See you soon for our first birth order post. Since they’re the ones who get overlooked most often, I’m going to go out of order and start the series with middle kids. Bring some Oreos–or your favorite cream- or chocolate-filled dessert. (Ice cream with chocolate shell counts, too).